The Makings of a Wonderful Relationship
- My wife loves antiques and Victorian furniture, I like modern furniture.
- My wife loves atmosphere at a restaurant. I like to see what I’m eating. It’s all about the food.
- My wife loves the site-seeing on a trip. I want to get where I’m going.
- My wife loves to see homes and interior design programs on TV–like HGTV. I like the History channel, the Learning channel, Sci-fi, and action movies.
- My wife loves a party: being social. I like quiet evenings alone.
- My wife drives the hottest Pontiac-Trans Am 2000 WS6 package. I drive a 1992 ranger pick-up.
- My wife works in at a Christian University. I supervise a fabrication shop [factory].
Yes. We have all the makings of a wonderful relationship marking a marriage that should last a long, long time.
Not according to online dating services.
Why do you suppose all these online dating services try to match up people with the same likes and hobbies? Hasn’t it been said forever that “opposites attract?”
It is my experience that there are some foundational elements in a relationship that have to be as identical as possible. But the rest of it is the spice of life, and variation is essential in the rest of it for sparks to fly.
What are the foundational elements?
Things like religion, child rearing, and fundamental concepts of right and wrong and of life style. If these don’t match, then the wrong kind of sparks will fly–believe me.
In fact, I have a rule of thumb for young people in a serious relationship: Multiply anything that bugs you, or you think is quarky about your partner, about 20 times or more. If you could deal with it at that level, then it passes the test.
So, keep life interesting with someone that intrigues you. But keep life stable with someone that has the same concrete in their foundation.
Regards.
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